Metamorphosis: Not Just for Caterpillars
Metamorphosis: Not Just for Caterpillars About a million years ago (or so it seems – I was still at school), I read “The Metamorphosis”... Metamorphosis: Not Just for Caterpillars

Metamorphosis: Not Just for Caterpillars

About a million years ago (or so it seems – I was still at school), I read “The Metamorphosis” by Franz Kafka. I did not really “get it.” But then, I was young, just beginning my own evolution – which, decades later, is still ongoing (exactly as it should be).

“The Metamorphosis” is the story of an unhappy man, Gregor Samsa, a traveling salesman who lives with his family and awakens one day to discover that he has transformed into an enormous beetle-like creature. To make a long and very peculiar story short, no one takes the change very well. They avoid him, they fear him, and they shun him. They do not speak to him. His voice and speech have changed; he speaks to them yet they do not understand him, nor do they try.

There are attempts to treat him as they did when he was in human form. There are attacks on his body. There is ridicule, there is weeping. There is persecution and a stubborn refusal to accept who he has become.

Eventually, Gregor’s love for his family makes him see that they will never accept him for who he has become. He sees that his metamorphosis is only causing them pain, embarrassment and unhappiness. He is unable to leave his room, or leave their home. So in order to spare his family any more suffering, he crawls into his bed and dies.

It seems most peculiar to me that I did not understand this story when I read it so long ago, when in fact, I was living it then, and I’m still living it now. I suppose I took it too literally and couldn’t work out why someone would write a story about a salesman who turned into a giant beetle.

Throughout much of my life, no one understood me, or bothered to try. But then, for many of those years, I did not understand myself either.

Thankfully, this changed a few decades ago when I embarked on an ongoing journey of self-discovery. I’ve reinvented myself several times, with the most dramatic changes occurring in the last several years. I’m blessed to have some people in my life who welcome and embrace those changes, and who understand them and appreciate them.

For decades, many people have judged me rather harshly for making those changes. They seemed unwilling – or perhaps unable – to understand me, or the changes I was making. And they didn’t even want to try.

It is one thing to dislike or reject change in oneself or one’s own environment. But it something else entirely to stubbornly refuse to accept change in someone else.

This is where the first cracks appear between people, as change can signal the impending death of a relationship, a friendship, or a business arrangement. How each of them accepts the change – or doesn’t – will determine the outcome of their association.

Others see in us what they want to see. A mother sees her grown children as her babies. A father sees his married daughter as “Daddy’s little girl.” Adult siblings still see each other as the pains in the neck they remember as kids – and sometimes still rival for the attention and affection of their parents.

Although it may seem sweet and sentimental to cling to the past, and to former identities and relationships, it is not a healthy way to live. Change is inevitable. For some of us, there is a lot more of it than for others.

Like many others, I’ve had a fair number of extremely challenging experiences and circumstances throughout my life. They have allowed me to continue to grow, to learn and to evolve, like a snake shedding the skin it has outgrown. And by sharing what I’ve learned through my willingness to change, I’m able to assist others through their difficulties or their desire for transformation in their lives.

Think about that word for a moment. “Trans” means across or beyond – so “transform” is rather like “beyond the form”. The entire form or structure of something has changed, like a metamorphosis, in which something goes from one state to a completely different one – eg. a caterpillar becomes a butterfly.

For people who are experiencing this kind of transformation, or metamorphosis, it is beautiful, empowering, and freeing. But for those who are left behind, it can be frightening and lonely unless they choose to understand or at least accept and acknowledge the evolution.

There are those people who will be able to do this. And there are those who will not. Some people are simply unable to comprehend such dramatic changes. It is not a flaw, not any more so than needing change is a flaw. It is just one of many differences between people.

It is one of the most difficult ones because it means some people move forward and into new situations, new lives, new ways of thinking – and some do not. When this happens, two people who were once traveling at a similar pace and in a similar direction are no longer even on the same road. One will have wandered off down a side road, taking a detour, disappearing into the trees on another path to discover Parts Unknown.

Change, evolution, transformation, metamorphosis…these are necessary for life to continue. At a very basic level, our cells die, and new ones are created all the time. If not for this, our bodies could not grow. Nor could they heal from damage or recover from illness.

But think about how we began – two tiny little cells that merged into one. And look at us now. If that isn’t the most astonishing metamorphosis, I don’t know what is. Look back a bunch of years and imagine where you’d be now if you’d never changed anything about yourself, what you were doing, or what you were thinking. How satisfied would you feel now? What accomplishments, events or adventures would you have missed?

Change is a part of life. Greater change allows a greater life. And if you want to go the distance and transform your life, you must transform yourself. There may be people who throw themselves on the path, grab you by the ankles and try to hold you back. But if you allow this, you will not be happy.

It can be painful to leave those possessions, those places, or those people we love, and move forward in our lives. But sometimes it must be done if we are to pursue our own freedom, express our own individuality and uniqueness, and discover our own greatness.

And if everyone did that, just imagine what a magnificent world this would be…

 

Written by Liberty Forrest

Award-Winning author and Huffington Post contributor, Liberty Forrest, has written several inspirational books covering a wide range of self-development, healing and empowering topics.

Living in England for many years, she appeared approximately monthly on Sue Marchant’s evening show on BBC Radio doing psychic phone-ins for listeners. She also did stage work as a medium, connecting audience members with loved ones in spirit.

With a background in social work and counselling, Liberty uses a highly creative, multifaceted approach to helping people overcome obstacles and move into a place of empowerment and connection with their Highest Selves.

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