Sex After 50! She’s All In, But I’ve Got A SMALL Problem?
– Frank Moffatt –
Basically the dang thing won’t stand up the way it used to, and because it doesn’t happen to everyone, or at least that’s what some guys are telling me, it must be my fault in some way or another. I mean whom else can I blame; after all we have to blame someone, that’s the way it works in our society. And since I’m driving this boat, well the buck stops with me, and that sucks!
Now it wouldn’t be so bad if I could just melt away into my TV, watching football and hockey, but even the dang TV keeps reminding me, “Hey pay attention you’ve got a problem”! Everywhere I turn it’s Cialis this, and Viagra that!
What the heck happened here. When I was a young buck I could giver 6, 7, 8 times a day, now I’m lucky if she fly’s at half-mast. Don Juan, I ain’t, but is this problem erectile dysfunction? Do I really need some drug or super concoction to become the manly man I once was? Is the woman in my life really looking for greener pastures, because I can’t please her like I once did?
Laugh if you will – but it’s not so easy when it’s your pewee that’s got a wobbly leg.
So I did a bit of research to see what was out there, what the facts were and what was at my disposal and here’s what I found out:
The American Urological Association, states that ED is “the inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual performance.” Satisfactory hmmm … for whom – her or me? Does half-mast constitute an erection – does that keep her satisfied? I mean, I’m certainly not scoring the lead in the 2016 version of Behind the Green Door, because rock hard is only a figment of my imagination. But the question still remains – is half-mast ED?
According to a study by the University of Chicago researchers found that about a third of all men aged 50 to 64, suffer from ED, and that that number increases to about 44 percent between the ages of 65 and 85.
So what the heck do I have? Well to cut to the chase I don’t suffer from “ED: I suffer from “ed.” Erectile dysfunction’s little brother – Erection Dissatisfaction. You see for most men beginning around the age of 50 erections change and we are no longer aroused to erection by wandering thoughts, if you know what I mean. In fact for most of us, we need to take things into our own hands just to get the blood flowing. Sure semi-hard erections still happen, but they rise slowly and they don’t get anywhere as hard as they did when I was in my 20’s and 30’s.
But the news is actually better than I thought so long as I remain positive. Sure a slight distraction might cause my erection to wilt, but it doesn’t mean I have ED. It’s only a little set back, I might have been knocked down, but it doesn’t mean I got knocked out.
Now there are a few things I could do to improve my erectile percentages, like getting in shape, removing stress from my life, drinking Ginseng, stopping smoking and drinking alcohol. I could even look for a little afternoon delight when my energy was a bit higher!
Bottom line, erection dissatisfaction is a bit of a piss-off and kind of demoralizing, but if I accept it more like a bump on the road as opposed to trying to jump over the Grand Canyon, I’ll be putting less stress on myself, which is a positive when it comes to gaining an erection.
I just need to keep in mind that this is probably one of God’s master plans to even things out between the sexes. As a young buck it was all about me, now I need that additional foreplay just to get in the game, and for her, well I’m sure she’s more happy to give me that extra time, as we rev up for the big crescendo!
Now for those of you that have ED, it’s no big deal if you’re not having intercourse, erections are over rated anyway. Just get creative and add in a mutual massage, oral sex, a vibrator or two and get-at-er! Be creative and play, and remember a man doesn’t need an erection to orgasm and orgasms are just as intense without an erection.
Oh ya and those pills, well they don’t work for one third of us guys anyway. So just get at it, explore, play and seize the day!
Frank Moffatt is the Founder and CEO of Your Second Fifty. An online educational community that provides inspirational educational through books, films, and online courses for those in their second fifty.